Back when I was 20, the Internet taught me everything I never knew about taboo sex, bizarre fetishes, and obscure fantasies. It seemed like a twisted and sometimes unsanitary world, but my eyes were opened to the notion that the mind-body connection works in mysterious ways: Even the most depraved thoughts can bring pleasure. Sexual fantasies, of course, are a normal part of life. In our minds, we can engage in risky behavior without consequences and indulge our inner freak without judgment.
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43 Unspeakable Sexual Fantasies People Actually Have
Most guys have a sexual "bucket list ," i. But do you have any idea what's on your partner's list? But when it comes to female sexual desire, everyone is different, so if you really want to know what your partner secretly wants to do in bed, there's only one way to find out: ask. In , researchers at the University of Montreal in Quebec, Canada asked women about their top sexual fantasies. The release of the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise also probably didn't hurt.
Sex Talk Realness: What's Your Hottest Fantasy?
While the physical side of sex is obviously an important one, fantasy and imagination are often overlooked but can be equally as beneficial to a healthy sex life. Female fantasies, especially, are often kept private and even now, when people are increasingly more open about sex, some are considered too risque to share. Crave sex with a stranger or being tied up? From being pinned down to the more extreme aspects of sexual domination, including BDSM and rape, domination is highly arousing for many women.
Gauging the normalcy of your sexual fantasies can feel like a difficult balancing act. One second, you're worrying that the new kinky thing you want to try is just too unusual to bring up, the next, you're having doubts that anyone would not fantasize about it because it's so damn hot. If this sounds like you, good news: New research suggests that even your freakiest fantasies are probably not as freaky as you think. To do this, they conducted a two-part survey with 1, respondents—first, participants ranked 55 different sexual fantasies, then described one favorite fantasy in detail.